I recently read an article in a magazine that talked about doing little things for your spouse. They asked happily married couples to tell about little things that their spouse does for them that mean a lot. It was a touching, thought provoking article. They were ordinary simple things. But when you give out of love to the most important person in your life, little things take on a BIG meaning. All those little actions say “I LOVE YOU” big and loud, louder than your words could ever say – although saying the words is important too.
SuperDave and I had a discussion over dinner last night about little things. We are coming up on our 35th wedding anniversary and I told him, "I wish I knew The Secret." I wish I could tell people THIS is the secret, do this and your marriage will be happy and you’ll stay married forever. But I feel like I’m just incredibly blessed and I don’t have the answer.
Maybe it’s that we’ve worked at marriage, never taking it for granted.
Maybe it’s that we do almost everything together outside of our jobs.
Maybe it’s that we are both each other’s favorite person.
Maybe it’s being polite and kind to each other.
Maybe it’s because we like a lot of the same activities, movies, music, reading, vacation.
Maybe it’s that we came from similar backgrounds, where family and faith were the center of the home.
Maybe it’s forever thinking of your spouse as your boyfriend/girlfriend, not just your husband/wife and continuing to try to impress them.
Maybe it’s because when one of us makes a mistake, we never berate each other, we just work through a problem together and forgive.
Maybe it’s the little things, bringing a cup of coffee to your wife in bed every morning or sending your husband a mushy card at work, just because it will make him feel special.
Maybe it’s all of the above and too many other things to list.
Maybe it’s not too late to start today showing your spouse that they are your world, your heart, your favorite.
Maybe we all know The Secret, but we just forget to practice it every day.
Much love and laughter,